Catch 22: Which Type Does He Really Like --Size 6 or Size 16?
When I met my husband, I was a size 6. Yes girl! I mean every curve and every piece of me was in the right place. I had a nice set of 36Ds, no stomach and a butt that was not too big and not too small. I met my now husband and we were happy for about the first 3 years. He absolutely loves my home-cooked meals and prefers them over carry out any day. He used to always tell me how I needed to eat and stop worrying about my size. I know people say that most times once you get married, people gain weight because they are happy. I guess we are no different. During the first 3 years when I kept asking him if I was gaining weight or how do I look, he always complimented me and told me how good I looked to him. However now I have noticed how he keeps making these remarks about how when he first met me, I looked so good, but when I ask him do I need to lose weight, he now says well baby, ‘you can get it back’. I am so confused because I feel like he could have kept it real with me before I got to a size he didn’t like. The confusing part is because now he uses different words like baby you are thick, but I like it. I feel like now he looks at all these women that are nice and petite, but I was once that and you encouraged me to gain weight. He now has the wondering eye and I am not happy. I know I could lose the weight, but I’m like how do I know what he really wants?
This is probably one of the most asked questions thus far.
The answer is not a simple one. This situation could be for many reasons. I would say before trying to figure out exactly what he wants, you need to know what you want. When are you the happiest? When are you the healthiest? Sometimes, men just as women, want the best of both worlds. They want to have a nice showpiece, but also a woman who knows how to put it down in the kitchen. Logically, if you are cooking and resting in the company of your man, it is a common result that one may gain weight.
Your situation could have happened simply because he loves you no matter what size you are. Then again, he could have contradictory feelings meaning that while he wants that slender model type chic at times, the reality is most men don’t want a bag of bones. They somewhat want both. The nice coca-cola bottle shaped woman who is slender with curves. However, without the proper diet and exercise, the ending result may not be that hourglass shape, but rather a more unappealing one. Do not worry, this perception has been influenced by the media and should not be the focus of the everyday woman.
My advice to you is to communicate to your man your desire to please both him and yourself. Tell him where you are most comfortable and respect his reply. The goal is to keep not just him happy, but the both of you. Invite him to exercise with you and engage in a healthier alternative to home recipes. The possibilities are endless, but first you have to get down to the root of the cause.