Drama Everytime I Go To Hometown
I went home just a few days ago and I must say that I always dread going home because of the negative vibe I seems to encounter. I originally was supposed to stay for three days, but I ended up being there for only 24 hours because about 4 hours after I arrived, my cousin came to my auntie’s house where I was going to stay and immediately felt the need to “fill me in” on what was happening in the city. Because my city is so small, everyone knows everyone. My cousin advises me on how he and my ex were at a mutual friend’s house drinking. While they were talking, my name came up as a question from the mutual friend to my ex. The ex started telling lies about how I have been stalking him for years and that anytime I have relationship problems, he is the first one I calls. He goes on to say that I called him and advised him that my last ex was beating on me. NONE of this was true. And it has always been the opposite. He has ALWAYS stalked me, begged for a 2nd chance and everything. What should I do now being as though this is the story now circulating around my hometown?
To begin with, people will talk about you every chance they get. It is almost human nature. You should never be worried about what comes out of someone else’s mouth in such a way because typically when people speak in such a negative manner, it is because they have a multitude of problems going on in their life that they are not mature enough to deal with, so they simply “overlook” them with other people’s problems. It takes the emphasis off them.
Continue to speak the truth, act positive, respect yourself and keep your conversations about your personal life short. There is a such thing as a friend, but even friends can be unhappy and cause you grief, especially when they do not know what to do with their own unhappiness.