WOMEN'S EXPECTATIONS ARE JUST TOO HIGH.
So, how can the black man be 100% at everything? How can he be a “Mr. Marcus” in the bedroom, and make the necessary money that you want him to make to provide you all the things that you want? He feels as though he is challenged both internally within the household and externally by society.
Ladies, do yourself a favor for this new 2017 year and press the pause button for a second. Stop thinking so much about yourself and your wants and take time to listen to the man when he DOES try to love you. Just to keep it real with you, it’s a lot less stressful to consider his feelings and take them for exactly what they are than to try to play the detective behind his back to only find his imperfections.
Rude Awakening! A perfect man does NOT exist. But let’s just say that he did.
Would he want to pursue you with all your baggage and your negative input and your lack of self-respect and your headache-excuse for not wanting to have sex with him and your nagging and your bitching and your plethora of baby fathers that you can’t let go? Would the perfect man want to come home to an unclean house with take out as the main course every day and uncontrollable kids and your instigating family members? Does a perfect man who is genuine from head to toe just stand in line for the chance to have meaningless sex with a female who buys 100% human hair— (Remy of course)?
Reality check---just as you feel you have the world on your shoulders, a man does too. Only in a different aspect. Men have emotions almost the same as women. They just display them differently. Typically, men like to take on one goal at a time and put their all into, whereas most women tend to want to “walk before they crawl”. We try to juggle many goals at one time. Oh yeah, you know---that multitasking thing that we think we’re doing. New flash – there is no such thing. Multitasking simply means that you are giving many things your divided attention, but never giving that one thing your all. Sadly enough, this includes your man.
The perfect man, or any man for that matter, must juggle the same things you do:
family, his career, his own personal goals, the kids and possibly an envious baby mother, a social life, health and fitness.
But ladies, there is also another struggle that goes on in respects to the black man that we as black women could never fathom---the many issues dealing with simply being a black man today.
But to top it all off, you want him to be able to also squeeze in -----YOU. Girlllll…And…Bye!
And then you woke up.
We get mad when we pop off at the mouth, nag and bitch and push our men away as hard as we can and leave him for the birds; but then a lady of another race comes along and finds worth in him and then we want to call him out as though we would even consider putting in the time and effort that his new mate does. Don’t hate. Congratulate.
This is NOT a bashing session sisters….it is a harsh reality that most of us live.
Let us uplift, regain our crown. Put your hand down and hush up every now and again. Support his dreams, be an encouragement to him as it helps to form a better, not bitter, you.