Ladies, I know this is an extremely touchy subject for us. Please don’t roll your eyes or scroll because you see the words “women” and “nagging” in the same sentence.
We have made our men victim to our nagging ways for centuries now.
The hardest thing to accept sometimes is the truth.
Oh of course, when we meet that perfect guy, we are in heaven and we immediately begin to create this dream world that we seem to stay living in. This world consists of all of OUR hopes and dreams and wishes and demands. We never stop to question what his future goals are with us.
Somewhere along the way, we forgot that at one point and time, we looked at this guy as our equal. Someone just as good, if not better, than us. We wanted him because of who he was, not who we could turn him into.
He used to love coming home to you, laying between the crevice of your lap, listening to your “war stories” from the job.
But now, he seeks to find any excuse to vacate his own home.
Funny thing is, if he’s home, he’s not doing enough, or he walks a certain way, talks a certain way, he doesn’t groom himself enough or he’s always in the mirror.
If he goes out and tries to hustle up a dollar, he’s not home enough, but if he doesn’t work he’s a bum and doesn’t deserve a monogamous relationship with you.
He tries to surprise you with a home cooked meal he prepared himself, you start complaining about what he cooked and how he knows you don’t eat this or that. But when he stays out of your way and let’s you cook, you complain that he doesn’t voluntarily help out.
He spends time entertaining the kids, you complain that he doesn’t spend enough quality time with you. But when he is in the bedroom kicked back watching television with you, you ask him why doesn’t he try spending a little extra time with his stepson.
When he is faithful ( and trust me, many men are), you drive him into the hands of other women with your lack of self-confidence, your insecurities, and most of all…your nagging.
See, we as women, have developed this disturbed way of thinking that it is all about us. He should cater to me, because……ummmmm….well…..I’m me!
He shouldn’t need any monies in his pocket for extracurricular activities because his main concern should be paying the bills in the house and making sure I have extra money for whatever it is I may want.
Ladies, Women, my Queen Sistahs. Please stop it. We are losing our men daily to women of other races as well as to other males.
Be the Queen you are. Be confident that you are enough woman for your man. Stop trying to track his every move because if he is going to cheat on you sweetie, it is in him and playing detective will get you nowhere except for stressed. And he will cheat anyway.
Find things in life to do that doesn’t involve a man, or your spouse or your boo thang. Grow a garden, love the ins and out of cooking or spend some time with the good book.
Put all that negative investigative energy into your kids, your dreams, your house, your pet, your life. Look in the mirror and find ways to improve that already beautiful lady you are facing.
Men find this attractive and it also gives him time to miss you. When you are always up in his face, you both get burnt out. Then there is nothing about him you miss, because you are always in his face. He will then start entertaining outside women who have hobbies.
Find a hobby ladies…..and stop nagging.