During one of my routine talks with one of my children I was asked, how did I get past the hurt, pain and abuse of my past.
That question seemed to have ran circles in my mind. It also hit me in a way that helps me to further understand the role that decisions and choices play on life events.
In support of this statement, I have to tell you that you decide your destiny. NOT your past, not even your present.
You have to first face reality by acknowledging the fact that you are not perfect.
Then, take note of all your flaws, identify them as flaws, and determine which flaws are in need of changing and which ones are not.
Next you have to learn to love yourself above all else. Loving yourself though, is not selfish, but in fact a selflessness that is developed when you become woke to the beauties of you that override your flaws.
Once you embrace this new you, you do not need a bullhorn to tell the world you are a great person. When you have a great energy, people cannot help but to see it and be attracted to it. They notice you. And your chi is distributed so effortlessly that you yourself will not focus on this action, but everyone that comes into close proximity of you will feel it.
Another step in getting past all misfortune, hurt, and pain is to occupy your mind with the thought of progression. It is most easy to allow negative energy to get into your headspace when you are not focused on a goal.
Make small goals. Make big goals. Make short-term and long-term goals, but make them as realistic as possible so that you don’t end up overwhelmed or depressed because you did not live up to your goals.
Always live to better yourself. Spend more time learning new things, engaging in different cultures, trying new foods, exploring a new activity or new place. These are key components to better health overall, but more specifically improving the brain function, social skills, and perception of any life-altering event.
I could go on and on in regards to getting past misfortunes, but I will save that for a more appropriate time.
I just want you to know that no matter what obstacles have been placed in your normal pathway of walking, it does not automatically mean you have to fall because of it. You can choose to simply step over the obstacle, pick the obstacle up and toss it to the side, or go in a completely different direction from the stagnant obstacle, to go down a new road filled with endless positive possibilities.