You wake up to your regular “Good Morning” text from the usual: may be your BFF, could be your kid, mom dukes, or that pretend-to-be significant other. You reply back with the common and expected Good Morning.
You finally open your eyes and sigh at the realization that it is now time to get yourself up and together and face the world’s music today, no matter how fast or slow the melody is. You even demand from yourself today that you will have a great attitude which in turn will produce a great day.
You say your prayers to the Most High and proceed.
You are now ready to face the world after you post on all your social media your positive thoughts for the day.
Before you get to work, you get that phone call which starts the negative path.
You get to work, your boss is being extra, you have some coworkers that you can’t stand the site of, some coworkers that can’t stand the site of you. You also try to overlook all of this and be productive, but then your day wouldn’t be complete without the circulating drama of the day.
Before lunchtime, your positivity has taken a setback, and you are now looking for the energy you started with.
And if you are like most that is of age to read this, you have at least a parent, grandparent, aunt, or other caretaker that you are now giving advice to or that may be in need of a helping hand.
You are trying your best to follow the word you heard on this past Sunday at church, but even some of the actions of the church now have you evaluating the worth of tithe giving and fellowship every Sunday. You notice that even while sitting in the church, there is gossipers, liars, cheaters, and other sinners carrying out there sins right in your face at the same time you are trying to receive a blessing of good word.
You gather with family, only to hear about who did what to Joe Blow and how aunt Vickie is not speaking to Keiysha because she owes her son-in-law 7.50. Your alleged best friend invites you out to a night of partying and drinking, even though she knows you are trying to cut back on your alcohol intake and settle down.
Road rage, traffic jams, baby mamma drama, rent’s due, car problems, kid’s working your nerves, parents sick, doctor putting you on meds, you’ve gained 5 lbs., you have no help at home, job doesn’t pay enough, taxes are high and everything else is low!
How do you keep your self in the “positive” so your well-being doesn’t go into the “negative”?
Reality check first. Face the fact that you cannot change others or their circumstances. You can only give a good word of encouragement and pray.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. And I repeat, don’t sweat the small stuff. So many things that you cannot change, you cannot change. So how doesn’t worrying about them or dwelling on them help? It can only help you to an early grave.
You cannot make traffic go away. So why get worked up about it. Instead, use this time to think of pleasant things such as where you would like to take your next vacation. Even if you know you do not have the money, just dream. This process retrains your brain and gives you a way to turn a negative into a positive.
When you start to get annoyed by family & friends, and even your job, just stop and imagine them not being there anymore. While yes, they all are a pain at times, but just think of how boring and lonely and hard life would be if you had no family, no friends and no job.
Your first thought may be, “Oh, I don’t need so & so.” And maybe at the end of the day, that person just may be someone or something that produces negativity in your life. Simple answer. Get rid of it. Don’t keep complaining about it, do something about it. Confront the situation or leave the situation.
Holding on to drama and negative vibes can have a very bad effect on your body and dampen your spirits. It can change your outlook on life, not to mention it can have you in the hospital or possibly suffering from depression.
No! Don’t put yourself through this.
You should respect yourself and your worth. Put no one before you and your needs. Yes your job may need you, your kids may need you. But if you continue to live for everyone else, your days will be numbered. It is wonderful that you want to move up at your place of employment. It is always a good feeling at the end of the day to feel as though you have accomplished everything you set out to do in respect to your kids and your obligations. If you want a cookie, everyone sells them. Good for you. Now.
When do you accomplish what YOU want to do in life or just for the day?
How often does the people that need things from you give to you?
Exactly. You will find that you will always have people and things depending on you. And that’s normal.
But in order to stay positively functioning, you have to make time for those things you like, love and desire. Big or small.
If you have a hobby, or want to visit someplace or someone, do it. If you want to sit at home and do nothing all day, it is perfectly fine and guess what? No one will die upon you resting your body and mind.
While life requires us to work hard and play harder. There was another part of that quote that got left off…..rest. Both before and after working hard and playing harder.
Lastly, invite others into your positive energy. Be a leader and not a follower. Lead that negative energy from others into your positive energy. One of two things will happen. They will respect and accept your energy and be encouraged to take part, or they will be pessimistic and walk away. Either way, you win.
Take charge of your life. Don’t let others dictate who you are. If you don’t want to be a part of negativity, let it be known and live your life in such a way that others have no doubt as to who you are.
Engage in more positive ways of thinking, even if they are unrealistic at that moment.
Retrain your way of thinking as it will show in your actions.
Rest. Pray. And stop trying to keep up with the Joneses aka the media.
Reconnect with nature and smile, as these things are just about the only things left that are free.
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