It begins with a physical attraction. This tends to be a negative for me because I am not photogenic. But the big killer is online sites require you post your AGE! Who wants to date a 50 something year old? I've been told I look 45 and of course I'd prefer that number. I have made contact with a handful of women in the past 4 months only to be ignored by them after chatting or setting up a date, they just disappear. It's also difficult because women 45+ are smarter, independent and wiser from their previous relationships, and most have careers and say they don't need a man (do they?). A couple of things that turn me off is they post their profile pics with their pets, I don't want to date their pets! (99% have pets). Also they post pics with 2 or more ppl, now how can I tell which one is you? And they make it clear, "not looking for a hook-up", but are they? Most women want long term relationships but as we know that takes time, but how much time? Remember girls, we are a male specie, so...maybe loosen up a bit! tick tock...tick tock...