"Hold On... I'm Cummin"
I will just get straight to the point. I love, love, love everything about my girl. She’s perfect: she works, she cooks, she cleans, take great care of the kids and she takes care of me in every aspect. Including in the bed. She is the best I’ve ever had in bed; however, I cannot say the same for her. I cannot please her unless she orgasms first through oral sex or with the use of toys—Every time. I don’t have a problem trying to please her because she pleases me, but I must say it gets very exhausting. It has gotten to the point where sex is predictable and even a turn off at times. What can I do or we do to change this because I truly don’t want to lose her?
First off, you are not alone. This situation occurs way more than talked about. There are many things you can do to try to fix this issue.
You first must communicate. You should explore her body and try to find her hot spots. Talk through this at the time you are doing this as she can and will let you know what heightens her sexual feelings, but you must be patient and very observant. When she makes you aware of those spots, waste no time in giving special attention to those spots. And believe it or not, it is not always you “going down” on her that gives her that uncontrollable pleasure. It could be a light and specific caressing of the breasts. It could be a massage on her inner thighs while gently kissing her on her back (or front).
I cannot tell you exactly where her spot is, but she does have one. It is your job to simply pay attention, find it and use it to your advantage.
And lastly, just as an FYI, if you notice that you are “going down” on her and you notice that she doesn’t seem to like it, then your friction is off. Let me know if this helps.