Hey guys! Sorry, but this one’s for you.
You know who you are. The guy that’s full of feelings, wants to be all booed up, but has been hurt before, so now you front like you all hard. You create profiles online because you want someone, but then you make sure you let it be known that you are just looking for “friends”, or friends with benefits.
You also make sure that the square ugly chics know that you are free to Netflix and chill, but you aren’t ready for anything serious.
That’s cool. You just gotta be prepared and ready for the tables when they turn on you. And trust me, they will.
It is damn near written in the book of life and karma is indeed a bitch. So just remember that anything you dish out, you gotta be able to take.
Women are more advance in being a playa than most men. When a woman is in her gaming phase, she will never kiss and tell. She could be sexing your brother or your best friend and you will never know.
Women are also very bold and straight forward when it comes to what they want—in the gaming phase, that is.
It is a thrill for them (some), just as it is a thrill for men.
Some women are so slick, they will come to ya house, corner you in the bathroom and seduce you, walk out and walk right back into the arms of their boyfriend in the kitchen.
I know a lot of men already think women are sneaky, and they can be, but not all women and not all the time.
Bottom line, don’t start something you can’t finish. Keep it real. If you like the chic, but you aren’t sure you are ready to be committed, just say it. There is a great chance she feels the same way.
If the sex is out of this world, but you can’t see yourself settling down with her, you can say that too! At the end of the day, she knows, you know. And everyone is clear. Trust me, she will still deal with you on that level.
You gotta remember, if you start chilling with her, like before 10PM and after 7AM, you are dating, or courting, or kicking it. Whatever you wanna call it. You are making yourself more than just a bootie call at that point. Meaning, you are catching feelings.
Catching feelings is cool as long as you understand the dynamics of it. You guys will begin to spend time outside of the bedroom. You will start to learn more about each other’s likes and dislikes. She will then want to introduce you to family. And then…
Her phone rings. And its another dude. She doesn’t answer. And then you pop that infamous question…..”Who’s that?”
Now you done messed around and made it official with that question!
Yeah, you didn’t know it but the translation to a female when you ask this question is…..”Girl, you’d better handle that, because you are mine now.”
That’s cool too because at this point, she is loving your company and your interests. The only problem is when YOUR phone rings, or you get a text. Or you turn the ringer off or lay ya phone face down in her presence. You gave her the ammo to shoot all types of questions and claims on you, not just your phone.
So, guys, you can’t trip when she’s all in your business because you put her there. Don’t put out what you can’t stomach to take.
If you didn’t want her all up in ya business, you should have put her out or left her spot before the sun came up.
I am a writer who loves unconditionally.